Dating apps and online dating sites have changed the way we date.
It’s made meeting new people more accessible and striking up a conversation far easier.
For lesbian women and the LGBTQ community though, dating apps have failed to meet many of our standards.
Whether it’s seeing men turn up in potential matches, or simply a design that has been created primarily for straights, and then tweaked slightly to tick a checkbox for inclusivity.
The queer community deserves better.
Thankfully there’s a whole new bunch of apps emerging, catering specifically to lesbian dating.
If you’ve been feeling fed up of the options available on many dating apps, take a look at our top picks below.
These apps and sites are incredibly refreshing when it comes to dating for women, with women!
Rated #1 – HER: Lesbian Dating and Chat App – Best For Community Environment and Values
HER is one of the most popular dating apps going around, and with good reason.
The app was built by lesbians, for lesbians, and it shows.
The app offers something for everyone within the LGBTQ community.
Whether you’re looking to find a date, meet some new friends, or get involved in events going on in your local area, HER has created a place to do all of this.
Since its first release in 2013, HER has created a good reputation and a strong community of women choosing to use the app.
So it makes sense that the women on there are pretty responsive, and there’s a good amount of women to choose from.
With around 4 million users, HER is one of the largest lesbian and bisexual dating apps in the world.
They also manually verify all of the profiles created – so no robots. Real people only, meaning you don’t waste your time. It’s part of their commitment to providing a supportive and safe space. Seeing men on your matches is almost impossible, and a welcome relief.
The app is free to download, but there is a cost to upgrade to the premium membership.
This could be one of the potential drawbacks of the app, as free users report being annoyed with the prompts to upgrade, and lack of free features.
But if you’re serious about dating and don’t mind paying to upgrade, the features make the app even more impressive and user-friendly.
Rated #2 – FEM Lesbian Dating App – Best For Quality User Profiles
FEM introduced a new concept of ‘video profiles’ to the digital dating world.
Why not upload a video of yourself, and watch videos of other users to get a real feel for them straight away?
Of course, an added benefit is that if you’re watching a video of a potential match, you can be sure it’s not a fake profile or any sort of catfishing going on.
Don’t worry too much if that’s a little out of your comfort zone, the app encourages users to upload a vid, but it’s not mandatory.
A lot of users still choose to use the app in the standard way, uploading a few of their best pictures.
This does mean the video feature might not revolutionize your dating experience, but we like the concept.
For those of you confident enough to put your best self out there by video, go for it!
FEM also has a public group chat feature, which means you can connect with multiple people in the same space, for whatever purposes you choose.
Rated #3 – OkCupid – Best For Trusted Reputation and Inclusivity
Okay, so, OkCupid isn’t strictly a lesbian dating app.
It’s a mainstream site open to men and straight people too.
That said, it’s worth a mention as it has a large lesbian and bisexual community using the site.
Which of course means a good pool of people to choose from.
They’ve also set a great example to other mainstream dating sites to become equally inclusive.
To value the queer-community not just as an ‘add on’ to the main target audience of straight people, but as equally valued in itself (of course)!
With their expanded options for preferred pronouns to choose from (over 20), and a larger range of sexual orientations to select from, we’re happy that they’re providing users the freedom and scope to better identify and represent themselves.
OkCupid also has some really nice features for all their users, like their personality quizzes and ‘percent match’ feature.
Users can answer tonnes of questions about themselves.
Fill in what you like and dislike, what your beliefs are, even if you’re vegetarian or vegan (if you want to!).
When you take a look at a potential match, you’ll be given a percentage for how compatible you may be (based on an algorithm of course).
But the percentage aside, it’s always helpful to know more about a person, and the quizzes are a great start.
Rated #4 – Zoe – Best For Newest and Upcoming App to Keep an Eye On
Launched in early 2017, Zoe describes themselves as “not just another lesbian dating app”.
Their goal is to create an interactive social networking app for lesbian, bisexual and queer women worldwide.
Combining features of social networking (like HER), with personality features (OkCupid style), Zoe is intended to be a personality (think Siri or Alexa), who gets to know you and helps you find that perfect match.
I’m sure you’ll agree that catfishing and fake profiles are one of the most annoying parts of dating apps, and Zoe has an interesting new approach to minimize this.
When you sign up for an account you’ll see a somewhat cheesy photo of a woman making a certain gesture.
You have to copy this pose and upload your selfie.
Once that’s done they’ll verify that you are indeed a woman and you can continue to set up your profile, much like most other apps.
It’s a great thing to see that the world of online dating is changing.
Becoming more inclusive of, and serving the needs of the LGBTQ community better.
These apps are all a great step in the right direction, and it’s refreshing to see how much is being done to add value to the queer-community.
Queer-only dating apps are creating fantastic spaces for our community to connect and support each other, whilst previously straight-focused apps are changing their design to be truly more inclusive.
We’re excited to see what the future holds for lesbian and bisexual dating, and who knows, perhaps you’ll find your perfect match!